A particularly ugly scar is one whose effects in the present still run against the grain of personhood. Violence, trauma, abuse and even neglect disfigure the soul and mar the personality. What harm has happened to me is irreversible, yet I need not see myself as a victim. I can let go of blame and choose to heal. Over time, my life's intent and direction become unmistakable. Though the scar and its effects never go away, my loving purpose and the contribution I am making permeate every fiber of my being.